Secret Sex Society
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having sex is what you have in mind so You've got her as far as your bedroom. What could possibly go wrong now? Many things - read these and find out why she never phoned or returned your calls. Not shaving. Like love, stubble hurts. When you drag your chin across her face or thighs, she might not be moaning from pleasure, but from pain.
Blowing in her ear. There’s a big difference between erotic whispering in someone’s ear and huffing and puffing as if you want to blow the house down.
Twiddling her nipples. Nipples are sensitive and should be treated gently. They should not be treated like radio dials.
Ignoring the rest of her body. A woman is made up of more than two breasts and a vagina. Pay attention to the rest of her.
Not disposing of used condoms. This is the responsibility of the person who wore it.
Not kissing first. Foreplay starts with passionate kissing. Don’t skip this part – she will feel neglected by your apparent haste.
Attacking the clitoris. Be gentle and don’t use direct pressure. This could be both uncomfortable and painful.
Stopping for a break. Women cannot pick up where they left off. In this respect they are different from men. If you stop, she will go back to square one very quickly.
Taking your pants off first. There are few things less attractive than a man in only socks, a shirt and underpants.
Going too fast. Remember this is not an Olympic event. There is no need for you to pump away like a hydraulic power tool. Build up slowly – and you both might have more fun.
Asking if she has come. You should be able to tell, shouldn’t you? If you can’t, assume that she hasn’t.
Nudging her head down. All women hate this. There is an element of desperation involved here when men do this. For women, it’s a very short step from being dragged to a cave by the hair. If both of you enjoy oral sex, this will happen by itself. Don’t involve an element of force.
Taking pictures. Her first thought will be “Who do you want to show them to?”
Giving love bites. Gentle suction on the sides of the neck can be highly erotic, but love bites can be painful and lead to infections. Who wants to wear scarves and polo necks in the middle of the summer?
Squashing her. Just remember that most men weigh more than women do. If you lie too heavily on her, she might stop breathing.
Talking dirty. This might make you sound like a desperate sex caller on a payline. Listen to her first – if she doesn’t talk dirty, don’t.
Don’t thank a woman for having sex with you. It makes you sound desperate and like a charity case. She won’t be back for more.
The vagina consists of three layers of tissue. The mucosa is the layer on the surface that can be touched. It consists of mucous membranes and is a surface similar to the lining of the mouth. Unlike the smooth surface of the mouth lining, the vagina contains folds or wrinkles. The next layer of tissue is a layer of muscle, concentrated mostly around the outer third of the vagina. The third, innermost layer consists of fibrous tissue that connects to other anatomical structures.
In the sexually unstimulated state, the vagina is shaped like a flattened tube, the sides of which are collapsed on each other. It is not a continually open space, or "hole" as often thought by both women and men. It is a potential space.
Because of its muscular tissue, the vagina has the ability to expand and contract, like a balloon, allowing a baby to pass through during childbirth, or adjusting to fit snugly around a tampon, a finger or any size penis.
The internal walls of the vagina itself do not have a great supply of nerve endings, thus are not very sensitive to touch. The outer one-third of the vagina, especially near the opening, contains nearly 90 percent of the vaginal nerve endings and therefore is much more sensitive to touch than the inner two-thirds of the vaginal barrel.
Foreplay is the one thing women can't get enough of -- OK, there are a few other things as well, but foreplay is an important one. In general terms, women are emotional creatures, and that's why they like, enjoy and mostly need foreplay.Remember foreplay starts with your clothes on.
Unlike their male counterparts, women aren't raring to get down to it. This is because their bodies need help conjuring the lust and lubrication required for intercourse and their emotions dictate that they feel a sense of closeness and mutual respect with their partner. All of this can be achieved through foreplay, which will also help your lady friend feel desired by you; if you simply want to jump her bones, she'll feel like a tool or a machine designed to get you off. Now, each woman is different, and some might like to bump uglies without any foreplay, but the odds are that your girl will need to grease the wheels first.
The small of a woman’s back – the small of her back is very sensitive and has many pressure points where many women carry stress. If you gently massage this area it will feel wonderful to her. She will delight as you gently kiss her throughout the massage of this area.
A woman’s soft spots – now a woman has several areas that are sensitive that you may not have considered but if you find them, she will love you even more.
Behind her knees
Inside of her arms
Hollow of her neck
Gentle stroking of these areas as well as light kisses are very pleasurable to a woman. Remember also, that gentleness is the key with women.
A woman’s buttocks – grab those butt cheeks in your hands, squeeze them, and play with them. This releases stress and leaves a woman with the thought that you are making your way to more erogenous zones
That said, here are five foreplay tips that'll help you turn everyday frolicking into something that will have any woman you seduce begging for satisfaction.
1- Talk and tease
During foreplay, the power of suggestion (especially with some dirty talk) can be as great as the sex itself for many women. If you can describe how you want to touch her, where, and with which of your body parts, she'll visualize it easily and eagerly. And if you know how to have sex with her brain (it is a major sexual organ), you can bet that she'll be begging you to have sex with the rest of her in due time.
If you need to touch her while you dirty talk her during foreplay, avoid touching her breasts and vagina. Instead, focus your mouth and hands on her neck, wrists, inner thighs, lower back, and ears.
2- Get started in public
Foreplay doesn't need to be restricted to the bedroom or inside four walls. If you and your girlfriend don't start crying at the thought of public displays of affection (PDA), try doing some fun things out in the open. And by fun things, I mean such things as rubbing her breasts or respectfully patting her ass in a restaurant, kissing her passionately while having drinks at a bar or dirty dancing at a nightclub. Make an effort to turn her on wherever you are.
If you show her that she turns you on via PDA, when you finally do find yourselves in a private situation, the good times will lead to some carnal indulgences
3- Strip down
Strip shows aren't just for men anymore; women have gotten wise to the idea of having men perform a peel dance for them. While I don't suggest you dance for her as you take off your socks or install a pole in your bedroom, I do recommend that you remove your clothes slowly (especially if you're fit). Remove your socks before you do anything; they're awkward and nothing turns a woman off faster than seeing a naked man with his socks on. Now that you're set to go, start by removing your shirt (unbutton it slowly while maintaining eye contact), then your pants, and finally your underwear.
At this point, undress her just as slowly. Sit her down and remove her clothing in the same order you removed yours.
4- Use your fingers and give her oral pleasure
Once again, I have to say that every woman is different and, therefore, every woman likes to be touched differently. However, the same techniques that you hopefully used in high school are still effective in the majority of women. Bring your hand to her vaginal area and, with the tips of your fingers, rub her outer lips (labia majora) by spreading them apart and bringing them back together; that should start the lubrication process.
When she spreads her legs a bit, that's a clear indication that she wants you to touch her a little deeper. At this point, you can start lightly rubbing her inner lips (labia minora), and then move up to her clitoris, which you should rub in a circular motion. Some women like their clitoris to be touched gently, while others prefer a more vigorous contact; read your girlfriend's body language for a sign of what you should do.
After a few minutes, bring your mouth to the area and, while you continue to use your fingers to play around inside her, suckle her clitoris to give her some great oral pleasure.
5- Watch some sex and kiss her
Porn can be a great way to get you and your girl in the mood, provided that your girlfriend is the type who enjoys xxx adult entertainment. Put on something that both of you can enjoy (preferably other couples having sex and something tailored to women), and lay naked with each other while you watch it. Remember that an "accidental" caress here and there is perfectly acceptable, even preferable.
Every now and then, stop watching the movie and kiss her or play with her body. Make sure to pay more attention to her than you do to the movie. As well, if you see something kinky that you'd like to try, make a comment about it and gauge her response, which will give you an indication of whether or not she's game. The idea here is to get her imagination going.